As we approach Parker’s Angelversary, I have one hope and dream…and I want all of you in on the celebration! It’s really simple and doesn’t have to cost you a penny. I’m asking each of you to do one random act of kindness this weekend, in honor of Parker and Abby. Our family has tens of thousands of people supporting us around the world. If each one of you pass along a random act of kindness, that means there will be a whole lot of good going on during a time when my family needs some uplifting support.
If you are new to this blog, please take a moment to read “Our Story”. I remember when my second triplet passed away, I asked Ryan, “What will we say when someone asks if Peyton is an only child?” It’s a complicated answer, but over time, I have found ways to make sure that my two angels are thought of often. And because of so many of you, their memory lives on. That’s why I wanted to include all of you in our special day. Months ago, we decided to separate the days. Even though Abby passed away on their Birthday, we want Peyton’s Birthday to be a happy occasion. We chose to celebrate and remember Abby and Parker on the day Parker passed away, August 16th. Every year on that day, we will celebrate two amazing lives. One of my favorite quotes is, “No footprint is too small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world.” And that goes for all three of my triplets. The day they were born was the day my purpose in life changed. Not only am I a mother to three beautiful children, I am now an advocate for raising awareness of child loss and grief, the Nicu journey and infertility.
So what can you do to celebrate my children’s lives? All it takes is a simple act of kindness. You can buy someone in line behind you a cup of coffee in the morning, or donate your time to a charity thats is near and dear to your heart. Mr. Skry plans on donating blood. Peyton, Parker and I all needed blood transfusions, so this is an easy way to give back. All I ask of you is to pass along the good. Whether it’s life’s little lessons, or just a smiling picture of Peyton, my children have passed along so much goodness here on earth and I would love to see others do the same. Please share your random act of kindness on my Facebook page or through this blog. Feel free to email me or shout your kindness from the rooftops. And please pass this blog post along. Share my wish with everyone you know and help us celebrate the lives of two precious babies. Imagine if the thousands of people pass it along to someone they know and it starts a snowball effect of happiness! I’m sure Parker and Abby will be smiling and giggling down from heaven this weekend. And knowing so much good is happening will help my family get through the tears and heartache as we recount the final moments of Parker’s life. I thank you all from the bottom of my heart and I can’t wait to hear of your acts of kindness!
As for our plans for Parker’s Angelversary, we’ll be visiting the place where he took his final breath, but also where he was so full of life for two wonderful months. I won’t give away our plans for honoring our children just yet, but these pictures give a good clue. Lets just say, thanks to the help of several friends and family, a lot of Nicu babies will be feeling a special random act of kindness.
We look forward to visiting with P&P’s nurses and getting big hugs from them. These nurses became family to us, so when we lost our children, they felt the heartache right along with us.
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Such a great idea! I will be giving groceries to a friend in need.
What a great act of kindness Katie! Good to hear from you…and thank you!
This is a wonderful idea Tracy. ((((((HUGS))))) to your family.
Love the ideal
Absolutely will do this and share. You’ve been so supportive of me Stacey, passing on your own kindness. I am happy to do this for your family.
Ok…thought about it all evening. Since we have such a huge garden, I will be giving some of our produce to a couple families with young children in need. Those young ones need veggies!!
What a great idea Maria! I love it–thanks!
what an awesome way to remember your babies. I would be honored to do an act of kindness in memory of your sweet angels.
I love the idea and will make cookies for my neighbor.
If anyone is stumped for ideas…school supplies are still needed for your local area families that are having financial problems. That is something that is happening in every area so check with your local schools, Dept stores, churches…etc.
Just an idea. As I read other ideas I see the acts of kindness you can do are endless.
My thoughts and prayers are with you family during this difficult time. Losing a child no matter what age is THE hardest thing a parent has to deal with. I know this first hand.
“There’s no tragedy in life like the death of a child. Things never get back to the way they were.”Dwight D.Eisenhower
Wonderful idea and I will be paying it forward in memory of Parker and Abby this weekend.
hi, my name is emily taylor and i am a c.n.a at a nursing home i take care of eldler people. some f them dont have family to see them. u r the only family thay got i give all of my kindness to the people that i love each and every day. say hi to peyton.
Today I overheard two teens and their younger sister trying to decide what school supplies they could afford, and putting things back on the shelf. I walked over and told them get whatever they needed, it was on me. I bought binders, pens, pencils, notecards, paper, etc that they chose. The oldest girl (16 or 17 years old) was brought to tears when we left the register, her younger brother and sister couldn’t believe what had happened. I told her it’s no big deal, we all need a hand every now and then, and to just try to pay it forward when she grew up.
Becky–That’s amazing! Isn’t it great to see how a little kindness can mean SO much to others. Thank you for sharing!
Hi Stacey,
I really could relate to your story. I am a triplet mom myself. Our baby boy David is in heaven with Parker and Abby. Four days after Laura got home, I had to do baby CPR on her, but she came back. Every year on their birthday (also David’s passing day) we release a blue balloon for him. The balloon is to remember that GOD sent me triplets but, decided to take care of one of them himself.
It is not a sad moment anymore, it is more like a Happy Birthday David! We sing Happy Birthday as we release the balloons, now my three years old girls, can’t share a balloon anymore, they each need a balloon to be released.
I will think of something that the three of us can do together to honor these precious little angels.
With Love, Aline.
Hi Peyton Enjoyed your blog, Will get back to you on my act of kindness. God bless
Hi Peyton! On Saturday I will be helping set up and run a benefit sale for a friend whos been suffering from crones and cancer. I helped him collect pack nd unpack donations .. set them out and price them.. ALOT of stuff! Today was first day and Sat will be last day! keeping you in our prayers!!
In honor of Abby & Parker, I donated blood this afternoon. I will also continue to pay it forward as a tribute to them. Prayers for you & your family. What a blessing you are for so many. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
What a neat idea! I will be donating food to our local food pantry this weekend.
In memory of your babies I paid it forward by purchasing the person’s order behind me in line at Starbucks this morning. I was surprised when I got to the window the person in front of me had already taken care of my order.
I loved your random act of kindness. ..this past week I’ve been at Saint Francis Hospital in Peoria with my daughter. She is now 31 but you never quit being a mom.she had major surgery in her spinal cord. She was born with Spina Bifida. Anyways…while roaming the halls , I read a newspaper article that was posted about a baby that was born here with no kidneys. It truly broke my heart…I did some investigating and found his FB page….Prayers for Sean Patrick. I purchased a gift card for the mother and left it at the intensive care desk in her name. As you know…taking care of sick babies you forget to take time for yourself. God bless you and anyone the needs extra prayers. Even being prayer warriors to me is random acts of kindness… so if we could pass on for people to like and share his page, that would be awesome.
I saw tis while I was working,so when I took my lunch,I paid for ice cream for some kids that were at Johnny Rockets!! God Bless your babies
What a beautiful way to honor them. I am glad we need more support. We lost our angel when she was 7month old .
We did! We drove one hour and a health to donate some medical supplies to Kath’ys Closet foundation. We donate Feeding tube bags, suction machine, some baby tapes, nasal feeding tubes that thank to GOD are no longer needed in our home.
Hopefully, we will be helping other preemie babies in need!
I am the grandmother of triplets and can’t even imagine the heartache you have gone through. Love the idea of honoring your little ones. I was out of town when I got this post so didn’t have much time to be creative. Just went into a gas station, bought a couple of lottery tickets and told the young clerk that the change was for her and I hoped she had a nice day.
While on vacation, instead if just dumping out my extra expressed breast milk, I was able to donate 24 oz to Mother’s Milk Alliance in Madison, Wisconsin. It makes me feel so good to be able to help other babies in the area. Thanks, Stacey for such a great idea to honor your babies. I know there was so much more love and good done in the world this week and I’m sure Parker and Abby have huge smiles on their faces right now.
I went to McDonalds & paid for the next person in line to honor your babies.
Gauge wanted to say thank you for his book. He loves when mommy and daddy can read to him. He can’t wait to go home.
Gauge wanted to say thank you for his book. He loves when mommy and daddy can read to him. He can’t wait to go home. He is still in the NICU at St John’s. 49 days and counting.