This weekend will be full of flowers, gifts and moms being pampered. I love seeing all of the posts about the special ways people are celebrating their mom this Mother’s Day weekend. I’m lucky to call my mother, my best friend. And I’m lucky to be mother to three beautiful children. But, Mother’s Day can also be a difficult holiday, as I learned last year. So, I wanted to share a message to all moms.
Two years ago I was pregnant, celebrating my soon-to-be mom status. I had three buns in the oven and life was absolutely perfect. But as we all know, it only takes a moment for your life to be turned upside down. Last year, Mother’s Day was rough. I remember my friend warning me that the day might be difficult. It was my first Mother’s Day as a mom to one living child and two angels. I honestly didn’t think anything of it. But when that day arrived, I was a wreck. My parents were visiting from California and I tried to hold it together. But as the hours passed by, the weight of my grief caused me to sink lower and lower. I missed my children. I should have been having brunch with three children, not one. I should have been rocking three beautiful babies. I made it through the day with plenty of tears and love from my family and I picked myself back up to tackle the next day. That’s the life of a grieving parent. There are going to be good days and bad days, you just learn how to adjust and live with it.
Over the past two years, I’ve received thousands of emails, comments and messages from supporters and it had me thinking. I’m not the only person who may have those difficult days. To the other mothers of child loss, I want you to know I’m thinking of you this weekend. I feel your pain and I’m crying along with you. For those of you with no living children, it doesn’t make a difference, you will always be a mother. You have a child (or children) protecting you from above. Whether your child passed away as a teenager or you miscarried at 10 weeks, you are a mother. This holiday makes me think back to my pregnancy and reminds me of how amazing the human body is. Three children grew within me. I fed them, nurtured them and felt them do somersaults inside of me. That makes me so proud. I am their mother, whether they are here on earth or in Heaven. So to those of you with angels, Happy Mother’s Day…you should be proud, too.
To those of you hoping to someday become a mother, this holiday can also be difficult. You want nothing more than to rock that child to sleep and stare in awe of their perfect little features. But, infertility has stripped you of that honor. I get it. I remember the years of pain Mr. Skry and I went through, hoping each month would bring the good news that we were finally expecting. And I remember thinking each Mother’s Day, “Maybe this year I’ll become a mom.” Thanks to modern medicine and other means, like adoption, it can happen. My heart goes out to you.
To those who may not be “mom” to a child, but are a mother figure, Happy Mother’s Day to you. You deserve to be part of this special day! To our nanny and friend, Leda, thank you for being a “second mom” to Peyton. We knew when we first met you, there was something special about you. You have helped Peyton more than we could ever imagine and we’re so grateful to have you as part of our family!
And finally, to my mom…Happy Mother’s Day. Tears of joy are running down my face as I think about what a special bond we have. It doesn’t matter how many states are in between us, I feel like you are part of my life every day. Whether it’s a simple phone call to give me a shopping report or face timing with your grandchild, we’re connected. You’ve been by my side during the most difficult days of my life, holding my hand and staying strong so that I could crumble in your arms. In the past 2 years, I’ve gained a whole new appreciation for you. Being a mother is hard work, yet you made it seem like a breeze. And as I see Peyton’s diva personality develop, I often wonder how you were able to handle me and my brother! So thank you mom. You are my lifeline on those difficult days and you’re just a phone call away when I have a random parenting question. Mom, you did an amazing job with me, I hope to make you proud as I raise my own daughter.
Have a wonderful Mother’s Day! I’ll be spending the weekend getting plenty of hugs from this adorable little girl! To see more pictures and updates, follow me on Facebook. Click the link and “LIKE” the page: Stacey’s Facebook Page
That was eloquently written Stacey! Have Mother’s Day to you and your mom, who hasn’t aged one day since I last saw her!
Happy Mother`s day.This is a special one for me.Last month we almost lost my mom,she was in ICU with a heart condition we didn`t know she had.So glad to celebrate another one with mom.hugs jane
if the weather couports im planning going to cemetery to vist our mothers grave and put a balloon and also our dads and flowers he passed away march 26th 2015 a day after our moms birthday happy mothers day enjoy little one and family
Stacey, a beautiful tribute to your wonderful Mom and all moms! Though I have never lost a baby or a child, I know this pain continues for you, just because you wonder about how it would be with three little ones walking and interacting. I do hope Your Mother’s Day is full of lots of those sweet hugs and wet kisses! I am so excited about your new job and the end of the long commutes with the wonderful benefit of more time with Peyton and Ryan. Have a Great Mother’s Day. Love, Aunt Mary
Happy Mother’s Day beautiful Stacey and to your beautiful Mom! Hugs to adorable Peyton!
Great writing!! Happy Mother’s Day!!!
Great post. There are to many women out there who will suffer through this weekend, and as much as I enjoy celebrating with my miracle baby (also thanks to Dr. Loret de Mola and team), I will never forget the feeling of sadness/grief. I think about those women battling infertility, loss of a child, miscarriage, and those who have lost their mother. Thanks for a great article. I always read and thank you for breaking the silence on so many things!
Great post! Happy Mothers Day to you. Hope your day is much easier this year than last. This was a beautiful tribute to mom’s all over out there. I never had the chance to be a mom I guess was just not in the cards. And back when I was young there was no invetro and all. But I have great nieces and all. I somedays wish I had kids but guess God had other plans. Take care and enjoy your day. they grow up much too fast.
Love the blog. Have a Happy Mother’s Day and enjoy all the hugs Peyton gives you. God Bless you all.
Hi Princess.
Such an adorable picture of you & Peyton! And, what a wonderful tribute! Happy Mother’s Day to you!
Hi Peyton. You are a very special little girl and your mommy and daddy love you very much. Give them lots of hugs and kisses.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Stacey mis P is gorgeous happy mothers day. It never gets easier. I lost a daughter at six months,she lived nine hrs I’m also a mother of two more healty son’s grown up and love them all dearly .Enjoy all your pictures and hope you continue to blog. Love it. THANKS
What a wonderful tribute to mothers and “mothers” alike!
Happy Mothers Day, and enjoy that precious little girl and YES you do have 2 wonderful angels above who would love to be in the middle of of playing with their sister. But we all know that they are there in spirit and enjoying the same amount of time with you. Hugs to yo and have a wonderful day …Hugs to you and Ms P
I’ve always wondered who Peyton looked like. Now, I know, your mom!
Happy Mother’s Day Stacey!!! Thank you for writing your blog. You touch everyone’s lives in so many ways.
What a tribute to mothers you are soch an inspiration to all with your post, you made me think of all who have lost children and continue to go forward and you brought tears to my eyes as I thought of how close I was 3 weeks ago to losing my own Mother but all is good now , Thank you for sharing your story and make us think of of others and not just our selfs. Hope you Mothers day was wonderful as mine was. Gods love to you.