I never expected a simple article to cause such a public outcry. I’ve been called fat, I’ve been called ugly, I’ve been called every name you can imagine over the years. It’s something journalists become accustomed to. While our looks shouldn’t play a factor, it appears to be the basis on whether we can do our job well…at least according a select few on the internet. After sharing with the world that a viewer called me fat, I never expected the outpouring of support that I received. I spent several hours reading through more than 400 comments and messages and I’ve come to the conclusion that what we look like on the outside does not define who we are on the inside. It all comes down to being comfortable in your own skin and learning how to love yourself.
When I wrote the article, “You Are Fat”, I wasn’t fishing for compliments. I am proud of the person I’ve become and my curvy body shows my story: I am a mother with stretch marks, plenty of dents and child bearing hips. I created three tiny humans at the same time, I am a survivor of child loss, and I have learned how to balance work and home, all while dabbling in plenty of blogging. In other words, I have enough confidence that I can handle the criticism that comes with being a public figure on television. But, what I wasn’t expecting was how powerful your words would be and the impact that it would have on my life.
I have read every single message and comment that has been sent my way and I found a common theme. Several supporters told me I am beautiful on both the inside and out. After reading that over and over again, it started to resonate with me. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and what’s on the outside doesn’t define who we are on the inside.
Another person commented, “When we are gone, our legacy is all that is left of us.” It’s so true. No one is going to remember if I wore a hideous suit jacket on television, which I regretted the following day. No one is going to remember the few months when I didn’t have time to work out, so I couldn’t get rid of that 5 extra pounds of baby weight. Many of us spend too much time thinking about the superficial things in life, and those are the things that will be forgotten down the road. I’m one of the biggest culprits of this. With a career that includes image consultants and talent coaches, it’s my job to look the part as I report the news. But, at the end of the day, I want to be known as a good journalist and a good mother. Beauty is only skin deep.
Among the hundreds of comments, was a simple reminder of the person I have become. A viewer wrote, “You are an example to all women and young girls who hope to do something meaningful in life, as you have.” As I fought back the tears, I thought of my children. I thought of my miracle daughter, Peyton, and her two angels in heaven. And I thought of the difficult and heartbreaking moments where I put my life on display for the world to see. When I began blogging, I wanted to keep one promise: be honest and true to myself. After reading that comment, I knew that I accomplished this.
When I think of what I want to be remembered for, it’s a legacy of strength, love and resilience. I want my daughter to not only feel beautiful, but I want her to feel strong and have self confidence. And that begins with me being a positive role model. As I was reminded from the outpouring of support, for every one negative comment I receive, there are hundreds of positive ones that are far more important. As long as I love myself, my daughter will follow in my footsteps.
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