Stacey Skrysak

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To My Son, On The Anniversary Of Your Death

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To my dearest Parker on the anniversary of your death,
It’s hard to believe it’s been three years since you left this world. August 16, 2013 is a day I will never forget; a day I can picture so vividly in my mind. While a little piece of my heart went to heaven along with you, I smile through the tears and heartache. You, my sweet son, brought me so much happiness in your short time here.
Parker SmileYour tiny features were absolutely perfect, even at only one pound. That adorable button nose and those ten little fingers are pieces of you that I memorized. As I close my eyes, I picture your blonde “Parker hair”, wild and care free. Your curious eyes opened wide and never wanted to close. Your eyes darted between nurses and back to your family, not wanting to miss the world around you. You, my sweet son, were beautiful, a perfect blend of mom and dad.
Your short time on earth was enough to see your personality blossom. While your sister kept nurses busy with her diva-like antics, you were content to just watch. Your laid back personality won over the nurses and everyone who had the privilege of meeting you. As I held you that final day, you glanced at me with a tranquil stare. You smiled ever so softly as I rocked you in those peaceful hours. You, my sweet son, were the angel of the Nicu.
Parker's handThere isn’t a day that goes by when I don’t think of you. I picture what life would be like if you were by our surviving triplet’s side. Would you be that calm boy from the Nicu, allowing your sis to pull your hair? I picture you playing football and t-ball, while your dad coaches from the sideline. I picture your laughter and contagious smile, a boy well liked by everyone he meets. You, my sweet son, are loved by so many.
There are moments when my grief creeps up, consuming my mind and body. And sometimes it’s guilt that takes over, a tearful moment knowing that my body failed you. It’s on those days that I find myself pouring through pictures and videos of your 55 days on earth.  But, rather than dwell, my heartache turns to happiness. Your body may have been weak, but your will was unbreakable. Sometimes the best things come in small packages and you proved that day in and day out. You, my sweet son, have helped me see the world through different eyes.
Parker at 2 weeks oldYou taught me patience and perseverance; you showed me that I am stronger than I ever thought possible. You taught me to embrace every single day; tomorrow is never promised. And thanks to you and our other triplet angel, you have given me new purpose in life. My life changed forever at 6:12pm – the moment you took your last breath. But, as the years go by, I’m finding joy by honoring and celebrating you in all that I do. You, my sweet son, may be gone, but you will never be forgotten.

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  1. Barb says

    this is so sweet, your heart breaks but the love that he gave you will never go away. His sister never forgets her siblings and that is something that you have given her. Love and caring for others. Love you and hope that today is a good one. Peyton will keep you going.

  2. mrsbsock says

    Oh my … I am sitting in tears and sending you hugs. “You taught me patience and perseverance; you showed me that I am stronger than I ever thought possible. You taught me to embrace every single day; tomorrow is never promised. And thanks to you and our other triplet angel, you have given me new purpose in life. ” I love this.

  3. Peg Fry says

    Once again you have opened your heart shared your memories of precious Parker. May God hold you & your husband a little closer today as you remember
    Parker’s short life.

  5. Carol says

    So sad for your loss, but Peyton is not one third of a situation. She is an only child who survived and deserves to be the center of your life as an only child. Do not surround her with this. She should not even be aware of this at this age because she is not developmentally ready to process this and is going to have survivor’s guilt–BIGTIME–if you keep this up. How do I know this? I was an identical twin and was forced to call myself a twin even though my twin fetus did not survive. I always felt like half of what they wanted. I was never enough. The perfect angel children were what they wanted and I was this real life child who did naughty things while they were forever preserved as sinless beings. Do not do this. It took 4 years of intense therapy to understand that my parents abused me by keeping me a twin when I was no longer a twin.

  6. taylormademama says

    I have tears in my eyes imaging the grief you must have felt and feel. But, wow, what a beautiful tribute to his life. He is your angel. Big hugs!

  9. Jennifer says

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your post is very sweet and I love the pictures you shared. It is very hard losing a child and I know it is something you do not get over. But it is good you are finding ways to honor and celebrate your son in your life.

  10. Justine @ Little Dove says

    Thank you for your sweet thoughts on this. I am so sorry for this loss you experienced, I can’t even imagine!

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