This is NOT ok. As I was scrolling through my Instagram account, this one comment stopped me in my tracks.
“Just stop having kids. This one will probably die too.”
I’m used to the negative comments. That’s part of putting yourself out there. Not only am I honest in my writing, I’m also in the public eye, which means the trolls come out in full force to attack my appearance. I’ve grown a thick skin over the years and usually laugh off the negative feedback. But every so often, a comment makes my blood boil.
As I read this terrible comment, my jaw dropped on the ground. This same woman went through my Instagram pictures and attacked me and my children several times. It’s what we call a “troll”. I usually just delete and move on, but this one woman got under my skin and I couldn’t just ignore the comments she made.
I didn’t even respond to her, instead, I quickly blocked her from my account. What I never understand, though, is why people feel the need to spew hatred? If you don’t like what you see on my social media, then don’t follow and move on with your life.
So why did I feel the need to share this terrible comment? Because I wanted to show you that life isn’t perfect on social media. Bloggers like me put ourselves out there. We write about a wide range of topics from parenting, to funny life stories, to tragedies like losing a child. We don’t write because we like to hear ourselves talk. We don’t write because we want those “likes” on our pages. We write because we can make a difference.
I began writing as therapy. It was a way to work through the darkest days after two of my triplets died. What I didn’t realize as I began typing away was that I could make a difference in so many lives through writing. As I began bare my soul with the world, I started hearing from others who have experienced loss, premature birth and the typical trials and tribulations of parenting.
Much like so many other bloggers, writing became part of my life. I have this unique platform where I can be brutally honest and where people can feel connected when they feel empty and heartbroken inside. I can help others feel like they are not alone. And as much as I help others by sharing the ups and downs in my life, you all have helped me more than you’ll ever know. You’ve cheered me on as share exciting milestones in my life and you’ve wrapped me prayer when I feel broken.
I won’t give this nasty woman another moment of my time. She didn’t deserve a response. I quickly deleted her comments and blocked her and washed my hands of this negativity. As I often remind myself, it takes a lot for writers and journalists to put ourselves out there. If I can touch even just one person with my words then I’ve done my job.
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Oh my goodness! That’s awful! I’m so very sorry. I lost a second daughter at 30 weeks that some people was concerned when I tried again that some begged me not to do it again. But this is beyond cruel! Every pregnancy actually have a different outcome. So she sounded uneducated and is probably jealous of you.
Justin Bieber posted fake pregnancy announcement on his Instagram on April 1st and I got after him that it’s cruel for loss mamas to see that and that it’s not funny. I had so many Internet trolls saying how much they hate me and wish they can throw a lamp towards me, so on. It was awful! Even I shared my loss on that post, Unfortunately as a loss mama to loss mama, we will always experience cruelty when we share our losses. It shouldn’t be that way. I wish I can hug you.
Hang in there!
I’m sorry that you have to deal with people that have no care for anyone. I’m glad your family is still growing.
People like her are just rude and hateful they can’t be happy so they try to make others feel bad I just hope it’s true what they say about karma being a bitch because she will see how it feels to be hateful to people I think you are great and have a wonderful family and wish you nothing but the best
The cruelty in this world just defies logic. So glad you deleted this person, I can’t say anything else for fear of sinking myself to her level. I pray that whatever situation has happened to her will be rectified so that she may lead a less bitter life.
i am so sorry that someone could be that someone could be that cruel …..some people are just nasty….hang in God has a plan for this little one
I just don’t understand the internet troll thing. Do people really have nothing better to do than harass bloggers, celebrities, etc. I follow Joanna Gaines and some of the things those people write are just pure hatred. I’m proud of you for deleting/blocking anyone like this because it is just evil and no one should have to experience it. I know this isn’t the first time something like this has happened to you and I cringe every time I see something hoping that you didn’t see it. Hoping you were too busy to read everyone’s comment. Stay strong and know that the love thousands of us have for you and your family definitely outweighs the haters! ❤️
May The Lord bless you, your family and this little healthy one you are carrying to full term in Jesus name we claim it!!